My mother died in her sleep today, 70 years old.
I wish things could have been different,
and that she would have chosen her grandkids and family,
instead of alcohol and pills,
many years ago,
when she had the chance.
I am glad I had the strength to be strong for my girls,
and that they have not had to live through the hell with alcoholism and drug abuse!
I have often missed you and the relationship we could have had !
Rest in peace mum.
I'm so sorry for your loss - and also for what you must have gone through due to your mother's choices.
ReplyDeleteI congratulate you on giving your daughters a strong example!
Sending you hugs today.
I am so sorry to hear your news.
ReplyDeleteIt is wonderful that you chose a different path, not everyone does.
I wish you and your family all the best.<3
Kondolerer! Det er trist å miste mor, selv om du kanskje på mange måter føler at du har mistet henne for lenge siden, slik som du beskriver henne.
ReplyDeleteJeg VET hvordan det kan være, min mor hadde de samme problemene, til hun døde, 70 år gml.
Jeg tenker på deg, og føler med deg i sorgen! Klem....
Mine tanker går til deg og dine, Hanne.....
ReplyDeleteSorry about the loss of your mom..twice...life should not be so hard. I am glad you overcame for yourself and your children!
ReplyDeleteHar gråte nokre tårer både for deg og meg i kveld, føler med deg!
ReplyDeleteTenker på deg, Hanne.
ReplyDeleteKlem fra meg
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. :0(
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss Hanne, you and your family are in my thoughts.
ReplyDelete*hugs*
Tazzie
Sorry for your loss Hanne
ReplyDeleteI lost my dad to cancer after a lifetime of enduring his alcohol antics/trials but when he got cancer he stopped drinking and for three years we got to see the real man behind the bottle...what a blessing that was..who would think cancer would be the thing that made him stop drinking when he couldn't all those years for his family...sigh
I'm so sorry for you loss. But good for you creating the kind of life you wanted with your girls. Hugs, Paula
ReplyDeleteThinking of you at this time as you struggle with memories and what may of been. Be kind to yourself xxx
ReplyDeleteMange klemmer fra meg til deg, Sissel
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry for your loss and for the missed opportunities and the should-have-beens and could-have-beens!
ReplyDeleteSending you lots and lots of hugs, my ex-husband was an alcoholic drug addict. I can only imagine how hard and heartbreaking it must be when it is your parent who is a substance abuser.
Take care and be gentle with yourself.
Sally
I am so sorry Hanne for your loss and proud of you at the same time for choosing the better path for yourself and your girls.
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts and prayers.
My heart goes out to you. What a hard thing to go through. I admire the life you have chosen to live in spite of everything and the beauty you create and share with your quilting talent.
ReplyDelete(((Big Cyber Hugs))) for you.
ReplyDeleteDear Hanne,
ReplyDeletemy best and heartful thoughts are with you....
With a BIG, friendly (((HUG)))
NADINE
I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself at this time!
ReplyDeleteMarianne in Vermont
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. It is sad when people make bad choices. I am sorry for all of the things that could have been.
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts and prayers.
God bless you and yours always! You chose love inspite of everything!
ReplyDeletei grieve with thee
ReplyDeletemy own children have watched as their father has struggled with the same demons ... i do understand your pain ... take good care
Hanne, I am so sorry for your loss and the suffering. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteSending peace, strength and healing thoughts for the days ahead. Grief has many stages, be kind to yourself in the midst of this stage of life's journey.
ReplyDeleteHugs & love Hanne.
ReplyDeleteGrew up in it; married it and have left it far behind.
You're a tremendously strong woman who learned how to make the good choices in life when others did not.
Dwell on the positive, and remember her fondly.
Hanne, I am so very sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time. Be safe and may God bless you. Big Hugs.
ReplyDeleteHanne, I am so sad for your loss and for the special things that you have missed sharing with your Mum. Be thankful you had driven down the right path for who you are and your family.
ReplyDeletehugs Deb
I am so sorry for your loss. I lived through much of the same with my father and I completely understand. God Bless you and your family.
ReplyDeleteHanne I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear of your loss. But, I am very proud of you for the choices you have made. My father was an alcoholic and it made it very difficult for our family. I, too, was determined that this would not affect my children and my life. We have been successful, but sad that he wasn't able to enjoy his grandchildren. May the Lord bless and comfort you and yours at this time.
ReplyDeleteSuch sad news Hanne, I wish life could have been different for you. Good for you for having the strength to make a good life for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Joy
kondolerer, - trist og tøft.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss, dear Hanne. I know your Mom had a beautiful success in her life: you. God bless you and your family with His peace.
ReplyDeleteKondolerer. Det er trist å miste ei mor uansett. Godt at du og døtrene dine er sterke. Eg tenkjer på deg. Lykke til vidare framover. Klem Frå Jofrid
ReplyDeleteHanne, please accept my condolences on the loss of your mom. I hope you find comfort in the company of your other family members.
ReplyDeleteHeisan Hanne ;)
ReplyDeleteKondolerer - tenker på deg og dine, ikkje lett dette .
Smil fra monika
Kondolere Hanne, måtte du finne styrke i dine nærmeste og velsigne deg og dine. Varm klem Hanne-Kristine
ReplyDeleteBeklagar, jättetrist. Tänker på dig och de dina! Kram
ReplyDeleteKlem og mange gode tanker til deg og dine!Hilsen Bodil
ReplyDeleteAll my condolences Hanne, to you and your family.
ReplyDelete(((hugs))) my thoughts are with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteOh, Hanne, what a strange mixture of feelings you must be experiencing, good and bad memories together. I am sorry for your sadness and I am very happy that you 'changed the pattern' set before you - your daughters will want to be like you; that is a big achievement and a reward. I hope you have a peaceful day to think about her, xxx
ReplyDelete((hugs))
ReplyDeletetake care
Kondulerer,Hanne,det er alltid vondt og spesielt å miste sin mor. Tenker på deg,klem fra Grethe.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss. I am proud of you for choosing a different life for you and your family. Hugs
ReplyDeleteKondolerer Hanne. Uansett hvordan ting har vært så har hun vært mamma'n din og det rører nok mange følelser i hodet ditt om dagen. Vær stolt av det du har klart med dine barn. Tenker på deg. Klem.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your loss, Hanne. As you said, may your mum's soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteYou are a wonderful wonderful woman. I'm sure she was very proud of you.
Kondolerer. Mine tanker går til deg og dine i en tung stund :-) Klem
ReplyDeleteKondolerer kjære du. Alkohol er ødeleggende for mange parter.Hadde det slik selv, og har glemt mye fra min barndom. Kanskje like bra. Masse klemmer til deg. Ta vare på dine.
ReplyDeletedear Hanne,
ReplyDeleteit is difficult for me to confort you in english, but I want you to know I think to you and feel compassion.
my mother died when she was 41 and my father when he was 73.
even we are prepared it is never like we thougth to lost our parents.
glad you choosed the life you wanted.
friendly
Marie from France
My heart weeps for you and your girls.
ReplyDeleteGode tanker til deg Hanne.
ReplyDeleteDear Hanne, I'll send you some heartful thoughts, too. Hugs...
ReplyDeleteFøler med deg. Masse varme tanker fra oss her til alle dere. Klem
ReplyDeleteTrist å høre. Tenker på deg og dine. Er glad du valgte en annen vei og stiller opp for din egen familie. Klem fra meg.
ReplyDeleteThe loss of one's mother is especially difficult. My mother and I were never close and her passing thirty years ago is still difficult sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI light a candle for you and your family and one for your mother. You will find peace in your heart. Your quilting friends support you.
Cathy in Shipshe
Kondolerer! Tenker på deg og dine. Klemmer fra Merete
ReplyDeleteUn beso
ReplyDeleteEncarna
Dear Hanne, thinking of you and your family during this sad time
ReplyDeletePam M, Australia
Wishing you peace at this difficult time Hanne.
ReplyDeleteIm sorry for your loss Hanne, its hard for me to comfort you in english, but Im proud of you and the way you chosen to live for you and your girls
ReplyDeleteI send you a hug,
for you and your girls
Ale
from Mexico.
Tenker på dere.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeleteHanne,
ReplyDeleteI wish you the strength that you need to overcome this loss. I'll pray that your mixed feelings will be organised in some way.
May she rest in peace.
Stor kram till dig Hanne...
ReplyDeleteTänker på dig och de dina... jag vet precis vad alkohol problem kan ställa till med.. Glad att du har styrkan..
Kjære Hanne, jeg kondolerer! Jeg tenker på deg og din familie. Trist å minste mamma to ganger, slik som du har gjot.
ReplyDeleteEn stor klem fra meg.
I am so sorry for your loss. I dealt with the same issues with my mother so I have an idea of what you are feeling now. Despite her demons your mom raised you and you seem like a great person! Try to focus on the good memories as you heal. God Bless.
ReplyDeleteHugs ...
ReplyDeletejust to say : wera stand by you and your family
Hugs.
ReplyDeleteKondolerer, Hanne. Tenker på deg, og håper du til tross for omstendighetene har det bra. Du er sterk. Klem,
ReplyDeleteLaila
May the good Lord bless you and comfort you in this time of need. Remember to always be their for them. My prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteKondolerer, Hanne. Nå begynner en ny fase av sorgen, og på andre siden av den vil du være enda sterkere. Klem fra Elisabeth.
ReplyDeleteMay you find peace in your heart and may love of family and friends surround you. Feel the warmth of all the cyber ((hugs)).
ReplyDeleteTänker på dig och din familj. Varma kramar till er alla.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear of your loss Hanne. My Mom and I weren't close until the last year or so before she passed away. I cherish that brief time but feel so sad for the other 58 wasted years.
ReplyDeleteIm sorry for your loss. My mom passed one month ago today. I was in a similar situation but only with alcohol...we had a good childhood, but couldve been better without the drinking. Im sorry again.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry... God bless you and your family!
ReplyDeleteHanne, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. Sending hugs...
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the loss of your mum and what might have been. So great you have broken the cycle with your girls. Hugs...Loretta SE Alaska
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to read of your loss Hanne, it is not easy to lose a parent no matter the circumstances. Gather your family close and give yourself time to grieve during this time. -Evelyn
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